‘මං හෙව්ව විරුද්ධ ලිංගිකයා මට ලැබුන් නෑ….
මං හෙව්ව මිනිස්සු මට ලැබුන් නෑ….
මං හෙව්ව පරිසරය මට ලැබුන් නෑ….’
ඡීවිතේ එක එක අවස්ථාවලදී මටත් විටින් විට ඔහොම හිතෙනවා
රස්සාව ගැන ඕක හිතුනාම වෙනතැනක් බැලුවා.
වරක් දෙවරක් නොවේ පස් හය සැරයක්ම
අද ඉන්න තැනට ආවෙ ඒ නිසා.
ඒත් යතාර්ථය, අපි වෙනුවෙන් මැවිච්ච දේවල් ලෝකෙ නෑ. හැම සංථතියක්ම මැවිලා තියෙන්නේ ස්වභාවික බලවේගයට ඕන විදියට
ඒ නිසා ලැබෙන දේ විඳවීම නොව බුද්ධිමත්ව හැසිරවීමයි කලයුතු. අද මම රස්සාව විඳින්නේ එය තුල සිටින මා අනුන්ට වඩා අතිශය බලවත් නිසා. මෙය තවත් එක් නවාතැනක් පමණයි.
ගැලපෙන මිනිස්සු නැත්නම් තනියම ඉන්න. තනියම සිටීම යනු තනිවීම නොවේ.
කාලයක් මගේ department එකේ සියල්ලෝම එකට කෑම ගන්නා වට මට තනිවීම විඳවීමක් වුනා. නමුත් අද මා තනියම කෑම ගන්නේ කෑම රස විඳිමින්. මා සමඟම සංවාදයේ යෙදෙමින්. ඒ නිසා අනුන්ගේ ඕපාදුප වලින් මගේ කන් පිරෙන්නේ නෑ. නිකරුනේ මගේ කාලය නාස්ති වෙන්නේ නෑ.
හෙව්ව විරුද්ධ ලිංගිකයා ලැබුනා යැයි දැනුන අවස්ථා, අනේ ඇයි මට මෙහෙම වුනේ කියා සිතුන අවස්ථා මේ විවාහ දිවියේ අපමනයි. ඔහුටත් ඒසේම සිතුන බව මට විශ්වාසයි. ඡීවිතය තිත්ත කසාය වූ කාලයක් තිබුණා. නමුත් අද, කුණාටු රහිත මුහුදේදී මට හිතෙන්නේ, කුණාටු කාලය අප දෙදෙනාම එක්ව නමුත් වෙන්ව දරාගෙන ඇති බවයි. අපිට අවැසි පුදගලයා බවට අනෙකා පත් කිරීමට වඩා අප අපම වීම තුළින් ඡීවිතය විඳිය හැකිය. එවිට අපට පෙනෙන්න පටන් ගන්නේ අප අනෙකාට දෙන වටිනාකම, අප අපටම දෙන වටිනාකම සමඟ මුසුවී සුන්දර සම්බන්ධතාවයක් ජනිත වන බවයි.
ලැබුන් නෑ..ලැබුන් නෑ..ලැබුන් නෑ
3 Novඅපි නම් LCD, LED, 3D TV නැතුවට හරිම සතුටෙන් ඉන්නෙ.
3 Novමේ කාලකන්නි පැය 4 හින්දා අදටත් අපේ ගෙදරට TV වැද්දගන්නෙ නෑ. නැත්නම් දරුවත් විනාශවෙලා අපි ගෙදර ඇවිල්ලා එකතුවෙලා දවස බෙදාගන්න පුංචි වෙලාවත් අපිට නැතිවෙලා යනවා කිසිම අර්ථයක් නැතිව. නිවාඩු දවසට දූට youtube එකෙන් ජාතික රූපවාහිනියෙ තිබුන අර්ථවත් කාටුනුයි, මේක පුදුම ලෝකයක් වැඩසටහනයි, ලෝක සිනමාවෙ හොඳ ළමා සිතුවමුයි දාල දෙනවා.
අපි නම් LCD, LED, 3D TV නැතුවට හරිම සතුටෙන් ඉන්නෙ.
සිරුරින් දුබල වුවද ජීවිතය ජයගත් දුලබ මිනිස්සු
3 Novමාර්ලා රන්යන්
1969 ජනවාරි 4 දා උපන් මාලා රන්යන් ස්ටාර් ගාඩ් රෝගයට ගොදුරු වී අන්ධ භාවයට පත් වන කළ නව හැවිරිදි වියේ පසුවූවාය. මීටර පන්දහස කාන්තා ධාවන ඉසව්වේ තෙවරක්ම ඇමෙරිකානු ජාතික ශූරතාවය දිනා ගැනීමට සමත් වූ රන්යන් 1992 පැරාලිම්පික් උළෙ‍ලේදී රන් පදක්කම් හතරකටද, 1996 පැරාලිම්පික් උළෙ‍ලේ යගුලිය වීසි කිරීමේ අංශය සඳහා රිදී පදක්කමක්, ධාවන අංශයෙන් රන් පදක්කමකටත් හිමිකම් කීවාය. 2000 වසරේදී සිඩ්නි ඔලිම්පික් උළෙලට සහභාගි වෙමින්, ඔලිම්පික් උළෙලකට ඉදිරිපත් වුණු පළමු අන්ධ පුද්ගලයා ලෙස වාර්තාවක් පිහිටු වූ රන්යන් ඇමෙරිකාවේ පැවැත්වුණු මැරතන් ඇතුළුව විවිධ ධාවන ඉසව් ගණනාවකින්ම ජය හිමි කර ගැනීමට සිය අන්ධභාවය බාධාවක් කර ගත්තේ නැත.
ඡීවිතය විඳින්නට පැය ගණන්, දින ගණන් අවැසි නැහැ.
3 Novඡීවිතය විඳින්නට පැය ගණන්, දින ගණන් අවැසි නැහැ. අවැසි වන්නේ දැනීම දැනෙන සිතක් පමණයි. වාහන තදබදයේ එද්දී අවට රියදුරන්ට දොස් දෙවොල් , සාප කරන හිත, දියවන්නා අද්දර පාර්ලිමේන්තු පාරේ යන විනාඩි පහේදී පිම්බී ඉඟිලෙන්නට වෙර දරන අපූරුව. දඩිබිඩියේ රාඡකාරියට යන්නට දුවන අතරතුර මිදුලේ බත් ලෑල්ලට බත් කන්නට එන ලේනාගේ දසුන දවස වාසනාවන්ත කරන සුබ දසුනක් වන අපූරුව. ඡීවිතය විඳිය යුතුයි, අවුරුදු 100 ක උපරිම කෙටි ඡීවිත කාලයට සාධාරණීකරණවලින් ඇති ඵල????
Driving in Colombo
21 Jan
I dont have an idea of how this post is applicable to other Asian countries. But driving in Colombo is just like driving in a play area with electric cars. There are tuk tuks creeping all over the road between vehicles. motor bicycles are same. they creep from left, right, front and back. We should have eyes in all the directions to see from which direction one bike comes and creep. Driving has became an effort of saving others lives. Specially lives of riders and tuk tuk people.
Respecting others is less in Colombo roads. All are trying to run, run and run like crazy people. people who own prado, montero and other high class vehicles think they know driving very well and they dont care about other motorists. people who have been given company vehicles dont care about how they drive cos damage to the vehicle is not a burden to them.
when you drive, just remember one thing. THERE IS A VEHICLE BEHIND YOU, WHICH FOLLOWS YOUR LIGHTS. If you brake the vehicle suddenly, follower will not have time to control his / her vehicle and he / she will knock on your vehicle. Also, no matter how many creepers are there. think of their families. there are kids who are waiting at homes until they come home. Patience is the best practice on the road in Colombo.
I was a short tempered person when I got into the vehicle. Sometimes I had get into fights with crazy drivers. But now I know. when someone troubles you signalling unnecessarily or trying to creep between your vehicle and other, allow that person to go 1st. Just because they are impatient, why we get into the same crazy position? no matter it hurts your self-esteem. Allow them to pass u. That is the greatest thing you can do for your own safety.
Once my husband told me. ‘waiting one second may save your life’ I never forget that. So you should too.
What I am getting
11 MayIt is amazing to see what I am getting. I dedicated my family, love and comfortable life only for one thing. It became my life.. Sometimes I wondered why am I so attached to it! Even now I dont know the real answer.
Sometimes it might be a hiding place for what I didnt get from the life. Some times it might be where I survived from my inner downturns. Some times, this desire can be what was within me when I was born. Only god knows the real answer.
But I am very proud to write these few words. I am getting what I wanted from the day I stepped into real HRD. Love, attachment and developments.. that was what I expected from my career. From the very beginning, after I changed my attitudes and thinking pattern, I began to win people. Now as a HR Manager, I am proud to say that I have become a people’s person.
Still there are few miles to go. From the soft skills side of HR, I want to get fullest satisfaction from winning people. That is a live testing of Dale Canagi’s views. After I become fully satisfied about myself, I wont have anything to win other than my developmental goal.
I am very happy to hear employees appraise me, when they say that they are not afraid of HR Manager any more and they like my way of dealing with them, my smile, I eventually feel that I am paying back the world for why was I born.
So, it is life. I am really lucky to see my dreams are coming true. today I began motivational quotes program.. day by day, I develop a new program with my team. Is there more to get than that????
Dreams
10 Mar
Today is a memorable day for me. Time was at about 7pm i the evening. I was on the way to home when my phone was ringing. Caller was from my company. That was the moment I saw beauty of drearms from some other person’s eyes.
He had been given an acting appointment. that is the evaluation step before a promotion. Today was the date of confirmation of his acting appointment. He was asking whether the confirmation in the post has been granted or not.
the significant thing in the call was not any of above details. He was asking about the confirmation cos he wanted to order a car, cos he is going to get married.
See the beauty of dreams. As well as our selves, others also have dreams. Not only us, they are also living. If we cant understand this reality, we would not become ‘Good Managers’ ever.
Bridge of Forgiveness!!
28 Octhttp://hrlink.in/topics/bridge-of-forgiveness
Once upon a time two brothers, who lived on adjoining farms, fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a conflict.
Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small
misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.
One morning there was a knock on John’s door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter’s tool box. “I’m looking for a few days’ work” he said. “Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there I could help with? Could I help you?” “Yes,” said the older brother. “I do have a job for you.”
“Look across the creek at that farm. That’s my neighbor; in fact, it’s my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between us and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I’ll do him one better.”
“See that pile of lumber by the barn? I want you to build me a fence — an 8-foot fence — so I won’t need to see his place or his face anymore.”
The carpenter said, “I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I’ll be able to do a job that pleases you.”
The older brother had to go to town, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day. The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job.
The farmer’s eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped. There was no fence there at all. It was a bridge — a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work, handrails and all — and the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming toward them, his hand outstretched. “You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I’ve said and done.” The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other’s hand.
They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox onto his shoulder. “No, wait! Stay a few days. I’ve a lot of other projects for you,” said the older brother. “I’d love to stay on,” the carpenter said, but I have many more bridges to build.
It doesn’t matter what our outer circumstances are either, because the Kingdom of Heaven is within us. Don’t spend the rest of your life searching the world for happiness then.
Just look in the mirror and laugh. Just let the happiness flow from your heart, mind, and soul until it fills your life and the lives of all those around you..
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I just don’t want to say “Thank you; it is a nice post…etc”. What should I say buddy. It is superb. Came in the exact time, to the right place and to the right people. I also wanted to post something like this, but no one can post a better than this ever. I hug you for the post. Brilliant.
So my dear friends,
22 views up to now. That means 22 forgiving, understandings. There should be a carpenter in all of our hearts. As same as we need a carpenter to build a bridge when ever we need it in HRlink. In a community like this, there may be lots of arguments, lots of criticisms and lots of heart breakings. But can we build fences? No. we can’t. Cos each and every human being has its own value. drops of water make an ocean.
We are in HRlink, holding each others hands, while I am typing this from S L, one of you may be in front of the computer, typing a similar reply. Though we are far away, in this little society we are equal. Though we have not seen each other, we are very familiar to us, like family members. YES, sisters and brothers can quarrel any time, but can they break the bind of their inner heart???
Let’s forgive every one who broke our hearts, who hurt us a lot and who disagreed with us in the past.
And forgive me if I said something wrong.
Nimali
Have a nice day.
Keep Smiling Always..:)
Regards,
Manjari.
In this world of growing hatred and increasing distances between people, there is need to build bridges between hearts rather than creating craters.Love, affection and forgiveness should prevail so that this earth becomes a real heaven.
Thank you for sharing the wonderful story Manjari and reminding us all about the importance of building bridges.
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I could not remain content by giving a mere thumbs up to your reply Nimali. Well said and every word of yours is quite true in present scenario and you all wonderful people out there really make this place a lot more worthier and proved that however far we are, the bond of humanity between us keeps us together always and forever.
Keep sharing Nimali!
Work vs Life
28 Oct
Dear Friends,
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Work vs Life…
Happy weekend 🙂
Warm regards,
Janani
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Really good one. Thanks for sharing such a good article.
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Really good one. Thanks for sharing such a good article.
Regards,
Aditi.
Hi Aditi,
How are you?
Success in life means to balance all its aspects, to give each and one of them the right importance, to establish priorities without ignoring the other sides of life.
Don’t “dive” in your work ignoring your family life, hiding from a social life or because you lack it. Don’t forget your loved ones, don’t forget what makes your heart melt, feel happy, understood, accepted and loved as you are, motivated and encouraged to reached your dreams.
On the other hand, don’t settle with mediocrity in your professional life, pretending you don’t have any ambitions because you have a family life and that takes all your energy and time. This may seem enough to make you happy for now, but in time you might end up forgetting you gave up your dreams so easily.
“There’s no fun in driving a car if your back hurts”. So true…I saved this at last, maybe because I am a doctor. You can’t fully enjoy being appreciated at work, succesfull in your business or loved if you have serious health problems.
You need all these to have a happy life, to feel achieved, complete.
Sometimes it might seem impossible, for sure it’s not easy, but don’t ever forget to be yourself, to know what you want from life, to treasure your moments with your closed ones, to put passion into your work, to find time to relax, laugh, face your consciousness…
That article was a reminder. thanks.
We cant achieve 100% of all aspects of what the article discuss. Health, success at woek, family life… these things are not going in the same line. Today these things have become so paralel to ur lives. So achieving those all together 100% is impossible. But we should balance all these aspcts. There I agree with you all. It may be 1/4 attention or 8/1 attention.But end of the day what will remain? Money? happiness? love? satisfaction?
Try to balance life. Thats what I try to do. Sometimes, we loss somethings. But reducing the harm will give a better life then
Regrat if have spel mistakes. Cos I log in while travelling. Sorry yarro
Nimali
The Story of the Butterfly
28 Oct
A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.
So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.
The man continued to watch it,
expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.
What the man in his kindness
and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.
Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.
He …
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Good Morning – another very nice story, which truly touched my heart.
“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”
This story expressed what we should do or not do as far as going out of our
way to helping others………..even though we might have the goodness of the peson in heart. It dose not work out that way. As long as we think of the out come before we put our in put is the best way to go about these kinds of matters. Where listening & thinking before our actions.
Some times we wonder about what are we doing in our companies, We wonder why we join with it and waste our time very much. Some times it may be a long suffering regret.
But, After I read your story I understood why I have spent my time in my previous organizations. I am preparing for the flying, with beautiful wings. Time required for the preparation, yes you are correct. When we look at the past, we can see how god have made us such beautiful with some procedural struggles.
Friend,
Nimali
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